The Reason is the Answer

The Reason is the Answer

We do not need to look very far to find that the reasons for our problems often contain the answers we seek. A ‘problem’ can simply be an indicator that what we are wanting is already in front of us, and it simply needs to be cleaned up or transformed in order for us to be happy or successful.

An inoculation, designed to prevent us from getting a certain disease, is simply a minute dose of the disease itself. It is just enough to allow the body to begin to build its own internal defense system. In Africa, my mother would place burnt cotton wool onto burns, and they healed quickly.

Nature knows this secret well. If you find yourself injured by a stinging plant, you can find the solution – a curing plant – growing right beside it. In other words the answer is often right there, facing us.

Applying this principle to more subtle matters, we can begin to realize that all of our answers are within us. For example in relationships, too much attachment to a person will ultimately cause pain. The cure is to apply more love, but in a purer form. Attachment is love in a polluted form. It is care and compassion, but is also filled with expectation and fear of loss. Love in its highest form cannot cause pain. To understand the quality of this pure love, and to share it freely without any conditions, is the solution that sets us free. There is always a fine line between the reason and the solution.

We can also see that if we suffer from low self-esteem or pride and arrogance, then ego – another word for the lower self – is the root problem. In this case, an elevated form of self-respect is the answer, but it needs to be based on an understanding and appreciation of the higher self.

If greed is the cause of our restlessness, then to be able to convert those material desires into higher, more noble aspirations is the cure and the way towards contentment and peace of mind.

If too much time on our hands is the cause of our boredom and depression, then to be able to put that available time to use in a worthwhile way is the answer to freedom and happiness.

If we aspire to claim a high position or become a leader of many, then we need to learn to manage and lead ourselves first, not simply feel the satisfaction of exercising control over others.

Whatever we are seeking in life, if we take the time to look deeper into the soul, we will find that we have the answer to all of our problems. They are probably looking us in the face, yet because we are so caught up in the problem we are unable to see the solution clearly. Often all we need to do is to take the time and effort to move to a higher level of consciousness and we may realise that the answer was in front of us all the time.

However, detachment is needed. We need to step away in order to see the issue for what it is. Otherwise we can easily feel justified in our negative responses, feelings and sorrows, and give them permission to continue.

In Raja Yoga, we understand that we have all vices and all virtues within us. They are often seen as opposites, (Anger/Peace, Attachment/Love, for example) but can just as easily be envisioned as a spectrum on which we are moving back and forth. So we can see that the opposites are in fact intimately connected. When our consciousness declines in one virtue, it degrades into vice in that area.

So the answer may not be to battle with our problems, but rather to see ourselves and the situation in a loving light so that we can get a glimpse of the truth by simply seeing it from a different, more elevated perspective.

It’s time… to look for the answer in the problem. Take a closer look at your issue and see if you can identify the solution within that. The answer is looking at you in the face!

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Slow Fix

Slow Fix

Unfortunately, we live in a world of quick fixes:  Quick fix meals with the help of the microwave, quick fix diets with the aid of capsules, quick fix weight loss as one goes under the knife, quick fix immortality with Botox injections, quick fix muscles with the help of steroids, and the list is endless.  Seeking fast results is not necessarily a bad thing, but when it threatens (the safety of) your life and also deprives you of much valued and cherished life experiences, then it’s better to think twice before taking the short route. Yet so often if there is the lazy man’s way out, we will look for it.

While there may be numerous solutions for fixing the ageing and ailment issues of the body, there are absolutely no instant answers for fixing the soul.  On the journey to a better self and a better life, there are no shortcuts and no option of simply covering over the cracks or sweeping under the carpet. Temporary solutions only yield temporary results, and the ‘inner work’ cannot be glossed over, bought, forged or fiddled.

Taking the long road may mean having to tolerate, accept, practice patience and having the ego crunched in order to arrive at our destination of peace of mind. One has to earnestly put in the effort, face the stuff, renounce a few things, realign, and keep forging ahead. And if all this seems like hard work, it is! But just remember, a great a work of art, a thing of lasting beauty, does not take ten minutes to make. Something of real value takes time to be created: the diamond goes through many long and painstaking processes before it sparkles and shines for all to admire.

Just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, neither is a character. In a world that is racing at 100km an hour, it seems we just don’t seem to have the time to take the long road, but that is what is needed to make real and lasting change in our lives. We want inner peace, we wish for happiness, we want to experience love in our lives, and we want it all NOW. So we take the tranquilisers, pop a pill, grab a new partner, only to find that the effect wears off just about as quickly as it arrived.

On the path to perfect peace, a true yogi is one who has made intense, genuine and honest effort on his/her self, effort which is sustained over time, no matter what. It is this energy that emanates from them, and they have the power to make others peaceful also. This kind of vibration cannot be faked or fabricated. If you are fooling anyone, you are fooling only yourself.

Simply taking up meditation, adopting white robes, renouncing a few creature comforts, shaving the hair (or growing it for that matter), will not make one a yogi.  He/she has to change from deep within, otherwise the effort is futile.  If there is not transformation at the core, then it is very easy to fall prey to ego, greed or anger. This explains why there are many sages who, whilst ‘living simply’, have managed to become millionaires!

Self-deception is a trick that the mind plays on us to make us believe that we are doing okay. But for as long as we keep avoiding or evading our issues they will only take even deeper root. If we do not look deeply into the mirror of our hearts to see what is really there and what needs to change, then we will only be deceived in the end.  Therefore it is far better to take the time and have the perseverance to change. Then we can live a full and abundant life and experience the unending joy of the peace, love and truth that lies within each and every one of us. We will reach that destination of inner peace, inner power, stability and lasting contentment.

It’s Time…. To ditch the ‘quick fix’ and do the real work of self-transformation. It may not be the easiest path, but it is certainly the most rewarding.

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Fix Your Crown

Fix Your Crown


Whether we know it or not – we all wear an invisible crown that we need to put straight from time to time. The crown in this case refers to the higher aspects of ourselves, our invisible halo, our dignity, our true self-respect. When we slip from our elevated seat, our crown also slips, and we can lose more than just our position.

Don’t air hostesses and catwalk models practice balancing books on their heads just so that they can walk tall and exude an air of presence and grace? If we were to imagine that we had an invisible crown on our heads, would we not pay a little extra attention to our stride, posture and inner as well as outer composure? Have you noticed that when you feel more confident, self-assured and in control you automatically ‘walk tall’?

Take that idea a little further and imagine you are a king.  This is the very basis of what Raja Yoga speaks about: you are the king, so rule over your kingdom well! You are a master of your own life, the creator of your thoughts, the director of your actions. So is it not appropriate that we are the ones who will dictate what happens in our own kingdoms, not other people or places or events? So stay mindful of your invisible crown, and you will always be reminded to remain in your dignity and integrity.

An important person always knows who they are, even if they are not suited and booted! They have this constant awareness in the back of their minds. They naturally and automatically command the best treatment, and in return they are aware of what is expected of them in public or private.

Because of this authentic self-respect, one does not need to beg from others or stoop so low that the crown falls off. As a king I realize I don’t need to look at what’s going on in anyone else’s territory.  I have everything I need right here within my own kingdom.

When one is in the awareness of one’s spiritual power and position one is more aware of the impact of every thought on the atmosphere. As a king, one only has the highest form of thinking: positive and powerful thoughts. There is no judgment of what is right and what is wrong, who is good and who is bad, but the king simply does what he needs to do.

In order to keep our crown on straight and upright, we also need to be straightforward and clear; no prancing and dancing about.  If I set others off in a spin, then that karma will boomerang back, throwing me off my course.  If I fall into confusion and chaos, it is almost inevitable that my crown will fall off.

In order to hold oneself up, there needs to be self-respect and also the humility to match.  Sometimes, people walk nonchalantly through their lives whilst ignoring others.  This is not the real meaning of respect for the self, and is much more likely to be arising from the ego. Remember the adage: pride comes before a fall!  In spiritual self-respect there is inevitably natural respect for others.

A worthy king needs to remember he is there to serve.  If we think we are above others we will not be able to meet them where they are at; but the king who wins loyalty and respect from others is the one who knows and understands his own weaknesses and strengths, who takes responsibility for himself and at the same time allows others to be who they are, who controls himself but does not seek to control, who gives rather than takes, and who is always seated on his invisible throne of self respect.


It’s time… to fix your crown! When you get dressed, before you go out, remember to fix your crown and keep it straight. Repeatedly remind yourself of who you are and stay firmly seated on your throne.


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If You Don’t Mind, Then It Doesn’t Matter

If You Don’t Mind, Then It Doesn’t Matter

Isn’t the mind a devil at times; conjuring up a conspiracy against our peace, positivity and well-being! It can draft up negative or wasteful thoughts from simple situations and convince us to react rather than to respond. We need to befriend and bend our own mind if we are to steer it clear of making mountains out of molehills, or taking sorrow from situations.

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The mind is difficult to understand and even more difficult to tame. Like mercury, it is slippery and not easy to contain. One day the mind agrees to fun and frolic, and the next day it wants to be in isolation and solitude.

According to its mood, the mind can make small things big, or the other way around. However, if the mind, the part of me that creates thoughts, decides not to ‘mind’… that is… not pay attention, take sorrow, or take to heart certain things, then whatever is the issue does not really matter. And we can save ourselves a lot of stress and stay light.

Mark Twain said: “Age is a matter of mind over matter, if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” And isn’t this the case with many other things in our lives? If we don’t seem to mind, then those things don’t really matter, do they? Age is one of those issues, other things may be people’s habits, for example, if their level of cleanliness does not match your exacting standards, a car driver’s bad manners, annoyingly loud music, or even seeing your own hair go grey and the list goes on…

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Why is it that on some days everything appears to be hunky-dory and nothing seems to bother us, and yet on other days a similar situation can pull us down? Or, we react or respond towards the same person or situation in differing ways depending on the impulse of the mind.

We create limitations within our mind as to what is acceptable and what is not, but perhaps those lines keep shifting depending on our whim or our mood. We need to understand that unless we create clear boundaries for the mind and request it to stay within those limits, it is going to continue to waver and create disturbance and confusion.

If we allow a thousand trifling things to overtake our mind, we will constantly be upset, aggravated and unhappy. In other words, if you take sorrow from the situation then it means it is bothering you – you have allowed it to disturb you and take your peace away. If you decide not to give something trivial your attention, then it will cease to bother you. In fact you probably won’t even notice that it’s there!turtle b

We need to conquer the mind, not the situation. Situations will come and go, but if you realise that it just doesn’t really matter, then you can let it go. It’s a case of ‘minding your mind’ so that it behaves in an appropriate way according to the circumstances. Then you will find that nothing really matters that much, in other words, nothing is worth more than your peace and sanity.

It is the arrogant mind that takes control of our lives and makes us judge whether something is worthy of giving attention to or not, be it love or hate, respect or disrespect. If the ego is hurt, then the mind finds fault with that person or situation, we take sorrow and then it ‘matters’. If on the other hand the ego was pampered, then perhaps we do not mind, and then it doesn’t matter.Ant SLEEP FB

It’s time… to mind your mind and to decide to let go of the things that don’t really matter. Draw clear boundaries for your mind.  As a master choose what you prefer to focus your attention on and stay stress-free and light. And remember… if you don’t mind, then nothing really matters that much!


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How Do You Make People Feel?

How Do You Make People Feel?

People will forget what you said,
People will forget what you did,
But they will never forget how you made them feel.

The above is a quote by the late Maya Angelou.


How many times have you been inspired or ‘expired’ as a result of what someone said to you?  But check, was it really what they said, or the feeling you were left with as a result of their presence and words?

And have you ever stopped to ask yourself how you make other people feel?  We are conscious of the feeling we are left with as a result of people’s words and behaviours, but how often do we reflect on the impact we have on others?

Kindness and hostility are not words – they are feelings.  As we recollect our childhood memories, what left the greatest impact?  It was perhaps the teachers’ reassurance or the bully’s taunt.  All words have flown away, yet those feelings have stayed locked in our soul ‘til today.


It is often said that words are only 7% of our communication.  Tone, intonation, body language, a person’s presence and their reputation etc. are so many other aspects that speak to us at the same time as their words.

When throngs of people come to listen to a famous guru or a management pundit, that is not his or her time to impress the people.  He or she has done that work beforehand which is why the followers have arrived; wanting to soak in more.  And ‘impress’ is a key word – a positive impression has been left on the followers’ souls.

But how do we deal with negative impressions being cast our way?  There was another very powerful lady, Eleanor Roosevelt, who claimed: ‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’  So this raises the question:  Is the one ‘throwing’ the feeling more powerful, or the one ‘catching’ it?

I tend to agree with Eleanor!  No one can make us feel anything because consciously or unconsciously we choose our responses.  It is us who give our power over to the other party, like tossing over our heart to them for them to play with the strings as they wish.

I believe that when Maya spoke her wise words, she was intending for us to take heed of our deeds and to ensure that we leave good feelings in others at all times.  And when Eleanor spoke hers, it was to safeguard us against what others are throwing our way.  Both are equally important.


Our actions and our aura speak louder than our words.  One way to check this would be to ask: are people happier when we arrive, or when we leave?  If we are always giving others respect, honour and a good feeling in general, then who would not want to be around us?  If on the other hand we always condemn and criticize, people will run a mile. If our words are sweet but our thoughts are not, guess what is being picked up most of the time?

We also need to remember that we are all mirrors for one another. What I see in others is a reflection of what is within myself.  This is one of the reasons why the yogi will always aim to see the positive in others rather than look at their faults.  It helps us to be more positive and allows them to rise to that vision for themselves.

It is our duty as spiritual beings to choose to create the highest vibration at all times – to create good feelings and benevolent wishes for all.  It begins with ourselves.


In the end, everything is about feelings.  We all do what we do because we want to feel something – powerful, peaceful, loved, appreciated, honored.  The essence of life is to express and experience the highest and most uplifting feelings.

It’s time… to check: are people happier when we arrive or when we leave?  People will not remember what you say, but they will remember how you make them feel – glad or sad!


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