Tis the Season to be Jolly

Tis the Season to be Jolly


Deck the halls with boughs of holly
It’s the season to be jolly
And be thankful for all that we have
All the lights and decorations
Put up in the anticipation
Of the joyful celebration
That’s on its way
We’re counting the days
‘Til it’s time for Christmas day

Oh and God bless us everyone
The good and the bad
The happy; the sad
Oh and God bless us everyone
Here’s to family and friends
It’s good to be here again…

Celine Dion’s version of this traditional song very much sum up the reasons why we enjoy Christmas – a ‘season to be jolly’ to ‘be thankful’, and most of all to be with ‘family and friends’ again. For Christians around the globe it marks the happy day of good tidings – the news that God has sent a Saviour for mankind and most important for God to bless all – ‘the good and the bad’ – ‘it’s good to be here again’!


At this time of the year, four and five year old children across the world will be re-enacting one of the most famous stories of all time in their school halls – the story of The Nativity – the birth of Jesus.  Adoring parents will watch their tiny tots dress up as Mary holding baby Jesus (usually a doll wrapped in a blanket!), Joseph and the three Kings, all set within a simple backdrop of a stable filled with bales of hay.

Although the season has become increasingly commercialized over the years, millions of people, Christian and otherwise, celebrate the festival of peace and goodwill in many ways.  For many it has become a season of meeting, eating and gift giving.  A time to show love and generosity and feel a sense of community and togetherness.  Sadly much of the real significance has been lost in today’s consumerist world.

As with all celebrations, Christmas carries a deep spiritual significance. The story seems very relevant for the seemingly dark times we are passing through now, and the birth is a metaphor for the awakening of our inner truth.

Baby Jesus was born in the dark night bringing a ray of light into the world.  Corruption, anger and violence – are these all not traits of the dark night of the soul?  He was born in a stable, surrounded by animals – in the same way our awakening takes place amidst a world where human behaviour is becoming more animal-like by the year.


It’s time now for our inner child – the purity of spirit, our original divine nature, our inner truth, to overcome the darkness.  In the world we are starting to see evidence of this – it’s time now for honesty and justice.

The story tells us that the Angel, a messenger of God, came to give good tidings of the birth to the shepherds tending their flocks in the fields.  Who is the Angel, the shepherds and who are the flock of sheep?  The world is made up of leaders and followers – choose which one you want to be.  Leaders of today are leading the folk astray – we want a new spiritual leadership – Angels.  These Messengers of God, show the way of the truth, just as the star in the sky led the three kings to the Baby Jesus.  We need to hold onto the light of truth and also show the way of peace and love to others.


The three kings, wise men from The East, arrived bearing gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh – exotic and priceless commodities at the time.  Could we also be those wise (wo)men?  For we have travelled a long way following our compass (conscience) of truth.  Our priceless ‘gifts’ are already within us!  Peace, Love and Purity are the treasures that we all carry at all times to share with others.  We will ‘realise’ them when we follow the Star of Truth.  In the same way that the wise men bowed down before the baby Jesus, we also need humility at this time to realize our inner treasures which are our true greatness, our innate God-given gifts – this respect for the self is our true royalty.

As with all good stories, there has to be a villain to make the drama all the more entertaining!  In this case it was King Herod.  Worried that Jesus might compete for his throne (EGO playing out) he tried to kill baby Jesus so that he would be no threat to the king’s position. But both Joseph and the Magi had visions of Herod’s impure intentions and Joseph fled the family to safety.

As we too embark on the journey of truth, we have to be aware of our inner ‘Herod’ – demons of jealousy and envy, carelessness, laziness and other subtle vices that may kill our inner child – preventing us from moving forward.  By following our inner, God-given truth we can stay safe.

Surely the way of the Light is the need of the hour.  With so much sorrow in the world, let us be the Christmas sparkle of happiness!

It’s time… to nurture the light within, to let it shine brightly and for each of us to play our part of bringing light to the world.  Follow your truth and become the Angel – messenger of truth – finishing off ‘Herod’ and all his progeny of evils.

The It’s Time… Team wishes you all a very happy, peaceful and a successful year ahead.


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Touched and Moved

Touched and Moved

We all feel it when we are touched by something or someone, whether in our heart, our mind or our body. Yet if we were to describe the how or the what of it, it would be very difficult to explain.

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Why is it that we feel a physical and emotional warmth, or a sense of peace and calm when touched by some people, and yet we cringe when we accidently brush past a stranger?  Is it purely psychological, or are there some other forces at work?

Recent studies have shown that we all do actually relay subtle energies to others in close proximity to us, through vibrational frequencies. But are we clear on what exactly is it that we are emitting, and what we are taking in?

Even on a physical level, we are transmitting messages. While the Asians bow to each other or salute with folded hands as a mark of respect, the Westerners shake hands, originally meant to demonstrate that they come in peace, empty handed – without any weapons.  In ancient times, hugs were common to demonstrate solidarity.  In more modern times, touching another on the shoulder may be more fitting.  In the Middle East, even males kiss the cheek of another male to show love and respect.  In other words, some form of physical gesture is adopted to initiate communication or show affection.  It’s a way of saying ‘I grant you clearance’ and ‘I allow you into my world’.

The sense of touch is very important to people’s wellbeing. People who are ill and who are comforted with physical touch tend to heal more quickly. And children when reassured by the physical touch of a trusted and loved adult tend to learn faster as they feel safe and more secure.

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On another, more subtle level, if one is in the presence of a powerful person, one may feel enveloped in their energy or ‘charisma’. In such a case one may feel motivated to become like them – to the point of aspiring to become an actor after meeting one, or a pop artist after hearing one, or a monk or a yogi when totally inspired by their simplicity and renunciation. Energy is transferred from one to the other – intentionally or unintentionally – and one is moved or touched.

And it seems that love or attachment is not just in the mind either. Experiments conducted by Rollin McCraty at the Institute of HeartMath show that the heart creates the strongest electromagnetic field of the body, and the transfer of this energy from one person to another can be scientifically measured.

When one person held another’s hand in the experiment, the energy was conducted from the heart to the other person, much like a wire conducts electricity.  Even sitting in close proximity, allowed energy to transfer from one person to the other.

So whether we know it or not, we are constantly being influenced by different energies. Some we may need to protect ourselves from, as they can be hurtful and damaging, while others can be energizing and inspiring. The art is to be able to discriminate. For this our own purity of energy is important. Our pure heartedness and pure intentions will be a protection from negative energies, and in turn we will touch others with our positive energy.

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And just as we are being touched by others, so too, we are influencing others around us all the time.  It is not just our words and deeds that have an affect on others.  We also need to take care of our thoughts, feelings and intentions for they too ripple out into the environment and create a corresponding effect. Simply by creating thoughts (and thus vibrations) of happiness, appreciation, peace, love and gratitude, we can touch and inspire others with our higher frequency, and they too can be uplifted. This is one of the greatest gifts we can give to another and to the world. Do not underestimate the power of this invisible energy, it can move mountains!

It’s time… to notice the subtle energies around us and within us. Recognise the power of each thought and feeling and use it for the good of all. When we make our intentions pure, we can begin to change the world!

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When the Honeymoon is Over

When the Honeymoon is Over

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‘Honeymoon’ is a term that most often relates to the intimate time spent together by couples in their early days of marriage. However, as sweet as this first month (or year) of marriage may be, why is it that, like the moon, it begins to wane after a short period of time?

It is unfortunate that almost all kinds of relationships go through their cycle of golden, silver and copper stages. During the golden era, we trust, and open all the doors of our heart to the one we love. If for any reason the relationship declines, those doors begin to close, one by one, until one stands alone again and not as two. Some partnerships can withstand many ups and downs if the relationship has a solid basis of love and respect, but nowadays some are just not prepared to ride the storms. So how can we keep the relationship from tarnishing?

In order for relationships to work, the spice of life most needed is spirituality and not sexuality! Over several decades of experience with counselling people, I can truly say that when one begins to adhere to spiritual values in a relationship and begins to respect oneself and the other, only then can any relationship stand its ground and provide a platform for true companionship and the growth of real love.


Love, and not lust is the key. The dynamics involved in a relationship where lust is a primary factor are very different and can begin to untwine the ‘knot’. Attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, greed and so many other negative traits can make things go sour.

Spirituality means to turn the vision inwards and not outwards. The first major mistake we make as soon as the initial gloss wears off in any relationship, whether at work or at home, is to start seeing the others’ flaws. We put the other under a magnifying glass and begin to point out each and every defect that we feel needs fixing in them. Turning my vision inwards means to look at my own weaknesses with self-respect and acceptance, and to begin seeing where it is that I need to change. As I become more accepting of others, that in turn brings out the best in them. Judgment simply closes people up.

‘Familiarity breeds contempt’ is one of those famous truths. As soon as two people get too close to each other, they feel they have a right over the other, and begin dictating to them. Respect is lost, sometimes to the point of making jokes about them and generally disrespecting them in front of others. This is not good fodder for any relationship.


Sadly, many people enter marriage or a relationship because they feel they need ‘the other half’ in order to be complete. They expect their partner to meet their needs and fill a void in their lives. But imagine if both are needy, who will give to whom? The best recipe for a successful partnership is when two people who are already self-empowered come together in equality and respect. Then their relationship will be one of giving and receiving, rather than wanting, expecting, and becoming disappointed with the other.

If and when the honeymoon ends, it’s because we wake up to the fact that the person we married is not the idealized image of perfection that we were hoping for, but a real person with qualities and weaknesses, good and bad – just like us! And at that moment it’s good to check whether it is they who have changed, or I who has changed my vision and expectations of them.

Ironically, it’s when this gloss wears off, and the stars have fallen from our eyes and we see the other as they really are, that we can really begin to love, and create a true ideal relationship.

The honeymoon ends because the intoxication of this phase comes naturally to an end, however we can keep the love flowing by holding the beautiful, worthy vision we had of them in the first place. And in this way we can keep the honeymoon sweet, lasting and evergreen!

It’s Time… to realise that we can keep the honeymoon evergreen by keeping the love flowing. With self-respect and a positive vision, all of our relationships can stay fresh and sweet!

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Solving Misunderstandings

Solving Misunderstandings

Misunderstandings can be so upsetting that they can spoil a good relationship within minutes. Aren’t we humbled, and sometimes ashamed, when things are drawn to our attention, and we find out the real truth behind the matter? We realise what a story our wicked mind had convinced us to believe.


Misunderstanding another’s tone of voice can also cause us pain, if we take it in the wrong way. The sender may be saying one thing, but the recipient may receive it in a different way. For example, Have you done IT!? Or, Have YOU done it!? Or, Have you DONE it!? The statements can be taken as a command, an accusation or an enquiry, depending upon how the words were received.

How many times did you feel that someone was ignoring you, and then later learned that their eye-sight was short and they didn’t see you or their hearing was bad, and they never heard your sweet hello? How often have we jumped to a judgment about someone being stupid, and found out later that they were in fact quite smart; and we were the fool for not seeing their master plan.

We also make the mistake of assuming that a person should understand what we mean i.e. be intelligent enough to pick up our thoughts, and so we refrain from stating what we think is obvious. Which in the end only makes an ass out of both you and me. The lesson, is do not ass-u-me!

misunderstanding 2Technology can play major part in creating misunderstandings. You try to call someone and at your end you hear the call ringing out, yet for the other party they neither hear it, nor see a missed call. Messages too can go astray in this gigantic cyberspace, and yet we keep having waste thoughts as to why they did not respond to our messages and calls, and as a result, we put them on our black list!

There is also the human element. I know I have missed messages on my phone and emails on my computer because there were just too many at one time. I had every intention of replying back with an appropriate, warm message, but somehow it just got overlooked. There was really no insult or snobbishness intended.

The point of all this lengthy explanation is to suggest that perhaps we need to communicate clearly and also give others the benefit of the doubt. Everything is not always as it seems and we need to just be a little patient and quiet and wait for the drama to unfold before assuming we are right.

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It’s always good to get things checked out before closing the door on someone, especially nowadays when so many factors are involved. For example, traffic does genuinely make people late, and emails do get lost and phones to get diverted. All these factors are out of our control.

What we can control, however, is our character and reputation; our patterns of behavior. If a person does have a steady record of being polite, or responsive, or caring or reliable then we find it easier to give them the benefit of the doubt. If a person is often rude and non-communicative then yes, there may be a tendency to jump to hasty conclusions.

But since we are aware of the law of karma and we know that everything eventually comes back to us… then it’s also good to stay positive and find an excuse for the other. In this way I stay open and I can manage my emotions.

It’s time… to be careful with our communications and to be clear. To not jump to conclusions and give others the benefit of the doubt, that is, if you want peace of mind.

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Amrit Vela – Time of Nectar

Amrit Vela – Time of Nectar


Amrit Vela is commonly known as early morning meditation. ‘How early’, you may ask… to be precise, at 4am! What is so appealing to yogis about this unearthly hour? Well, ‘Amrit’ means nectar while ‘Vela’ means time or moment.  As one sits in meditation and in contemplation of God, one is able to taste the nectar, the sweetness, of this divine relationship and take sustenance to empower the self. It is a very special, silent and personal time with the Almighty that is much more difficult to recreate once the world begins its busy, noisy day. It is the only time to take real power from God.

Sikhs believe that the day is divided into 8 parts or 8 ‘pehrs’ of three hours each, and the time between 3am and 6am is the highest energy.  Buddhists also have an early morning meditation ritual.  In Islam the first prayer of the day, ‘Fajr’, is also before sunrise. Hindus too believe in the ‘Brahma Muhurta’, time of God, which occurs exactly for the first 48 minutes, of the one hour and thirty-six minutes before sunrise everyday.  This is a time, they say, that is conducive to learning and mastering the scriptures, music and any other art form. There is also a widely held belief that the early morning hours are the time when the gods or angels are encircling the world. They are ready and waiting to bestow blessings… but only to those who are awake! Which gives rise to the saying: if you snooze, you lose!


The benefits of Amrit Vela are endless, and the practice is not as difficult as some may think. Yet some people’s immediate response when asked to try out this daily practice is one of shock and panic, especially those who go to bed at this hour! In response, I would say, try it and give it a chance.  Don’t look to see what you losing, but look to see what you are gaining! Losing an hour or two of sleep is really nothing, compared to the power, confidence and spiritual stamina you will gain from awakening early and absorbing this early morning spiritual energy. The feeling for me is one of intricately fine tuning myself to God’s vibration, which in turns enables me to fine tune to the world, so that I can begin to know exactly what to think, say and do.

I personally have been waking up at 4am everyday since 1983 and I thoroughly love it. I have never got bored with it. It’s a discipline I took up early on, and it has been a part of my life ever since then – it is just not negotiable. If due to sickness or travel I miss this early morning appointment, then there is definitely the feeling of having missed something important, like missing an important dose of powerful medicine! Of course in the beginning it is easier when you are practicing with others, but after a while when you get the hang of it, and are enjoying it, then sitting alone is also bliss.

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Of course it does help to go to bed early, and to go to sleep with the right type of thoughts: peaceful and positive, in remembrance of the true nature of the self and God. Going to bed at 2 or 3am is not ideal. In truth, one really needs to ask oneself the question; what is the real benefit of the late night entertainment, when perhaps it could be replaced with the early morning one! Late nights mostly drain you and give you hangovers, the morning one will recharge and revitalise you. Amrit Vela, is the only true time to fill up high quality fuel in the soul, for the rest of the day you will not pass such a ‘petrol pump’ no matter how powerful your meditation is.

So what do you do once you have managed to wake up and get out of bed?  Wash your face, and have coffee or tea if you feel you need it to stay awake.  Then set a dim light and sit to meditate in your favorite place.  Open a window for fresh air and fill your lungs with the morning ozone. Light a candle if you wish, but remember that that is simply a pale reflection of the light that is inside of you, the sparkling light sitting in the centre of your forehead.

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Amrit Vela is normally a time to bathe in the blissful experience of God, and our higher self. A time to quieten the mind and to keep the thoughts calm and still. Sit and absorb his love, energy and pure vibrations. It is not really a time to think of mundane matters such as work, or to try to resolve the inner and outer conflicts that may be ongoing; reserve those issues for your later meditations. In fact, as one fills oneself with power at this most auspicious time, one is able to gain the inner strength to overcome many of the obstacles that arise in one’s life.

It’s Time… to wake up in the early morning hours and to fill up from the Supreme Source of love and light. Enjoy the sweet taste of Amrit Vela and awaken not only the body, but also the soul!

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