Do You Get the Point?

Do You Get the Point?

With so many things to give our attention to in life, we can very often get caught up in paraphernalia and miss the point!  Learning to stay focused on what’s important and what is of value, takes a certain level of discernment and interest.

To see the point can mean a few things.  One is to really understand the meaning, reason or purpose for something.  For example, everyone is laughing at a joke that your friend just made, except for you.  Somehow you just didn’t get the point.  It also means to cut through the excess to get to the essence, the crux of the conversation or situation. The third ‘point’ I will come to later.

As we learn to focus on what is important, the immediate benefit is that we save a lot of energy, and most would agree that that is an extremely important benefit in our busy lives. Aren’t we always complaining about being tired at the end of the day?  So try making the conversations brief and essence-full and, get to the point fast, instead of beating about the bush.  In other words, don’t use ten words when two will do.

We all know how we can lose ourselves, our time and money in the expansion of things.  For example, in order to buy a small gift we roam the whole mall.  Perhaps if we took a few moments at home to reflect and get clear on our purpose of the sort of gift we want to buy, we would only direct ourselves to those shops.  How often have we found ourselves walking into a shoe shop and luggage store, when our intention in going shopping was only to buy a few groceries? All too often we have the experience of starting somewhere, and then ending up somewhere completely different.  The internet is another perfect example.

How often have we rambled on in a conversation and then forgotten what we wanted to say in the first place?  We get distracted with the side scenes and stories and don’t stay focussed!  We not only miss the point, we totally lose the plot!

Black dot

Although life today encourages us to get caught up in the expansion of things, we do have the ability to get to the point. For example, I have done an exercise in seminars on many occasions where I draw a dot on a white board in front of the audience, and then ask them to tell me what they see.  The vast majority of the time they say that they see a black dot.  Yet 99% of the paper is white.  But what is more significant in this case? – yes, the dot.  The expansion (of white paper) is not important and can be easily ignored.

If we can use this ability in our everyday lives to home in on the essence and leave aside the expansion, then imagine how our lives would be more effective, more efficient.  We would be less stressed, more relaxed and with much more time to do what we wanted rather than being caught up in a whirlwind.

This is where the other definition of ‘seeing the point’ comes in handy.  As we begin to see each other as points of light, not these big bodies, but divine beings of light, we realise with an innate conviction that deep down we are all the same, needing and requiring the same things; it is only the casing of the body that is different.  This vision would save us from a lot of waste and negative thinking and we could easily drop the baggage of comparison and competition, jealousy and junk!

Then we can see ourselves and others for what we really are: a world of experience, personality traits, values and virtues – love peace and wisdom- all contained in a tiny invisible point!  And when we get this point, then we can go into the expansion, into life, and share all of these qualities with others.

It’s Time – to get to the point, the essence, and fast.  As I stay focussed and consciously not get caught up in the expanse, I am able to zoom into the essence and create for myself a reserve of energy, which will ensure I always stay empowered.  Do you now get the point?

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Be Wiser than a Miser

Be Wiser than a Miser

What prevents us from giving when we know it’s really the right thing to be doing in that moment? Why is it so hard to give, when we have what the other wants, and may even have a lot of it? Why is it difficult for some of us to part with love, kindness, cooperation or other assets such as time and money, when we would not be losing much if we did?

Make me happy

We are not born misers. We become misers along the way. Some develop a paucity or scarcity consciousness. Not because we don’t have, but because we fear not having enough, and also more than that, we don’t realise exactly the value of what we do have. For example we can brighten up someone’s day with a smile.  And we have arms that can turn into helping hands. We have a mind that can produce powerful thoughts. We have a heart that can generate good wishes and pure feelings to all those around. To give or not to give, is not so much about how much we have or don’t have, it is more a state of mind, or a way of being.

Unfortunately, living in a physical world, our vision has become limited to mostly physical things and our life has been defined by physical attributes. Hence, we have learned to place a disproportionate value on material things. Secondly, we have come to hold onto those material possessions ever so tightly for the fear that we may not have any left for ourselves. This tension is the cage that makes us into misers and magpies!

Insecurity is the biggest block in allowing us to be generous and overflowing. But what is insecurity? It is nothing short of fear. And fear, like darkness, is the absence of something. When there is love, peace, light, kindness etc. there is no fear. Sometimes we become fearful of giving, in the event that others may become dependent, attached or sticky towards us! This is when we need to trust, and exercise love and kindness and then it will be in our hands to make only our positive prophecies come true.

Nowadays there is a trust deficit. We are unable to trust ourselves, others, and the cycle of giving and receiving. We don’t realise that as we give, we are opening up the flow to receive. Just think: money in the bank does not grow… but money invested yields returns. By keeping it in the bank, we only fool ourselves into thinking we are reducing the risk of poverty. Yet some have learnt through the financial crisis that that is not the case either!

Perhaps it is not that we don’t have the assets of time, money or energy to give, but it is just that we prioritize selfishly. Most people reading this article probably have more than they actually need. It’s just that they think of themselves first and less of others. Imagine instead, a world in which every day, we did something for someone else first… from the heart. What a different world that would be.

As I focus on my inner qualities of love, peace, bliss, truth and purity, I gradually begin to increase my self-respect and self-worth. I realise how much abundance I already have inside my soul and how much I am overflowing with it. As I pour this out into the universe, the universe returns its flow back to me, and what it brings to me reflects just how deserving I am.

This self-realization or self-enlightenment frees me from having to calculate or penny pinch. I give for no other reason except that I am full, and I am here to shine and radiate my gifts into the world.

It’s Time… to trust that what you give will come back to you. You have an abundance of gifts to share with the world. Don’t hold back. Be wise, and don’t be a miser.


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Which Channel Are You Watching?

Which Channel Are You Watching?

We can view life in any number of ways. We can see it as a comedy, a horror movie, or an entertaining drama!  Depending on the channel we choose, we are entertained, horrified or saddened.

Every situation is perceived according to our mood. One can laugh at it, get annoyed or upset, become serious or even inquisitive. Isn’t it up to us? Actually, we get to choose the channel, but so often we forget that we have the power to do so.

Knowing that we hold the remote control of our life can be a great relief, because it means that if we are not happy with our drama, then we can just change the channel!  We can turn doom and gloom into lightness and humour with the flick of an internal switch.  We don’t have to stay stuck in that particular screen of life; there are many other channels to choose from!

We may find it hard to believe, but we have it within us to change a difficult situation into one that is easy and light if we so choose.  Or, is it that we like to indulge too much in the soap opera of life, with its ups and downs, thrills and spills! Some people are natural at creating dramas in their life, they just love making mountains out of molehills. They thrive on excitement and the rush of adrenaline. But remember that what goes up, must come down!

Make a decision to only watch the positive, or the humour or educational channels of life!  And this really can be done as easily as pressing the button on the remote. With a switch of a thought you can change how you view and how you feel about any situation.  You can also decide to turn the volume down on the noise of your waste thoughts about a situation.

It is a fact that patients have healed themselves of illness through watching comedy movies. Laughter creates endorphins which rejuvenate and restore the cells of the body. And on the other hand, watching horror and terror on the screen can actually create stress and spasms in our muscles. So, does this also not hold true for our real life scenarios? Situations and circumstances will come and go. Some will be pleasant and others not so pleasant. How we respond to them will dramatically affect our wellbeing. Learning to look at the lighter side of life has to be the best gift we can give to our mind n body.

As soon as you feel yourself becoming tense and heated about a person or event, just say to yourself; how silly all of this is! Learn to laugh at the puppet show! Because each one (puppet) is being driven by the strings of their emotions. It’s very easy to get caught up in the puppet show, but it’s much more enjoyable to observe from a distance.

It’s time… to only select the positive channels in the TV of your life.  Know that you are in charge of the buttons and have the power to turn around the gloom and doom. With the switch of one thought you can change how you feel. Keep hold of the remote and  you will always have the  power in your hands!

I would like to take a moment this week to extend a special thanks to my spiritual sister and editor, Carol Lipthorpe, who also dedicates her precious time to polishing these articles!  Bless YOU!

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Sleep Well

Sleep Well


With the advent of the light bulb, we have turned night into day, and day into night. Although this may have done a lot for our productivity, it has deprived us of our pillow! With so many things to cram into our busy day, sleep is often the first thing to be sacrificed, but we may be losing more than we bargained for.

Did you know that sleep deprivation is as serious and can be as damaging as drunk driving? Just the other day a friend’s vehicle was hit by a car in London at 7am; three cars were involved and two were write-offs! My friend later learned that the driver who caused the accident had fallen asleep at the wheel, he was returning from a night shift.

If we would prioritize our needs and plan sleep into our day we would be a more pleasant person to be around. Sleep deprived people are mostly groggy, irritable, and sensitive. If you think you can survive on a few hours of sleep a day, think again. If you find yourself losing your memory and concentration, falling asleep in meetings, falling asleep watching TV or whilst meditating, then you would be classified as ‘sleep deprived’.

‘Sleep deprived’ means we are not getting as much sleep as we need to function well. This of course differs from person to person. We all have a sleep account and if we are not fulfilling it, and instead adding to the overdraft, then we will pay for it in other ways such as through ill health etc.

We also have an internal 24 hour sleep-wake cycle. At night, our body responds to the loss of day light by producing melatonin, a hormone that makes us sleepy.  During the day, sunlight triggers the brain to inhibit melatonin production so we feel awake and alert.  As we disrupt these cycles with different work shifts, late nights, or disturbed sleep, we mess up these cycles and thus deprive ourselves of the proper sleep we need.  It would be wise to heed to the famous adage: early to bed, early to rise, makes one healthy, wealthy and wise!

There is a lot to understand about sleep. For example, you can familiarize yourself with sleep cycles and the different stages of sleep, which include REM and Non REM, and the number of hours of sleep one needs as one ages.  Yet the most important would be to understand why we need sleep.

During the stage of deep sleep, the body repairs itself and builds up energy for the day ahead.  It plays a major role in maintaining our health, stimulating growth and development, repairing muscles and tissues, and boosting our immunity.

If we do not get adequate, good quality sleep, our meditation will suffer.  We could be sitting in the right posture and with the right intention yet if the mind is dull, we will deprive ourselves the beautiful experiences that meditation is waiting to offer.

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It is then that people become disheartened and give up hope in achieving a good stage of meditation.  It is not the fault of the meditation, rather it is other things that are not allowing a person to focus and concentrate.

The quality of our thoughts also seriously affect the quality of our sleep.  If we are negative and create many waste thoughts, then of course we will not have quality, sound sleep in which the body and mind can rejuvenate.

Our food also affects our sleep.  Have you noticed that when animals eat meat, they sleep for hours!  They need to invest all of their energy to digesting the meat.   A diet that consists of nuts, seeds and pulses would be easier to digest, thus allowing more energy for renewal of the body.

Learning to simplify our lives will reduce unnecessary actions leaving ample room for good sleep. Live simply and de-clutter your life, and then see how much additional time you have on your hands.

Raja Yoga is just as much about mastering our sleeping time as much as it is our waking time. As we learn to master our thoughts… we get better sleep and are more at peace in life.

It’s time… to improve the quality of our lives by improving the quality of our sleep. Sleep right, Sleep tight!




Mind Your Own Business

Mind Your Own Business

It makes good business sense to mind our own ‘business’, rather than to constantly keep an eye on what our neighbours are doing!

‘Business’ here is not a reference to managing our shops, but rather to managing our own life events. Minding our own business means to keep our eyes, mind and attention on our own drama, rather than to poke around in someone else’s. Moseying or noseying in other people’s business does not serve us in the least. When our mind is distracted from our own goal and purpose, then we will never reach where we want to be in our lives. When we focus on what others are doing then we don’t attain, we just continue to complain!

Sometimes it’s easier to look at others and point the finger or offer ‘well meaning’ advice, simply because our own life isn’t going that well.

Mind-When we complain

We act as experts on others’ lives offering advice on all manner of things that really are none of our business. And what we often fail to see… is that what we are attempting to fix in other people’s dramas… is the exact same thing that we need to fix in our own!

How often do we look at (and perhaps comment on) others’ defects when we should be looking at our own shortcomings?  We talk about others and what they are doing, when we should be assessing our own life path. We advise others on anything from the colour of their hair to their love lives and everything in between without a moment’s thought about whether they actually value, need, or even want our advice. Unsolicited advice doesn’t usually go down very well, and the one at the receiving end can often feel irritated, annoyed, or even bullied, and yet we persist in the illusion that we know best.

And isn’t it an interesting phenomenon that we often find other people’s stories more fascinating than our own? What is the difference between following a soap serial on TV or following your family and friends dramas in real life? The answer is probably very little.

Mind-Unsolicited Advice

Maybe it is because we are unable to find satisfaction and contentment in our own lives that we feel compelled to add more spice and drama by stealing excitement from others.

By interfering in other people’s business, we may be doing more damage than good. As we interfere in their script we are becoming directors of their roles.  We must realise that we cannot change anyone, nor force others to do anything. It would be futile to even try. As we try to change them, we may be incapacitating their spiritual and psychological growth as well as denying ourselves the beauty of seeing their real worth and value in our lives. Karmicly this would also not be a wise move!

Mind-Inspire them

If we truly want to help people in their lives, then we should learn to inspire and support them, not perspire to enforce them!

Learning to stay quiet, to stay emotionally detached, and to observe without judgment are a few of the practices we can implement if we want to enjoy life, win friends and most important of all, comfort others in a sincere and beneficial way.

Mind-stay quiet

As we focus on and take care of our own internal business, as we get our own house in order, then we will feel less inclined to look around to see what others are doing.

When we realise that we too are not perfect and capable of making mistakes, then we will begin to be more accepting, forgiving, compassionate and understanding.

It’s time… to mind our own business first. When we gain wisdom from life experience and self-reflection, when we have put our own house in order, then we will not feel the need to give advice to others. They will be so inspired that they will approach us!

Share these thoughts! ‘It’s Time…’ is spreading far and wide! Feel free to forward this wisdom, but to avoid any karmic rebound, please acknowledge its source – ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London


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