Mind Your Own Business

Mind Your Own Business

It makes good business sense to mind our own ‘business’, rather than to constantly keep an eye on what our neighbours are doing!

‘Business’ here is not a reference to managing our shops, but rather to managing our own life events. Minding our own business means to keep our eyes, mind and attention on our own drama, rather than to poke around in someone else’s. Moseying or noseying in other people’s business does not serve us in the least. When our mind is distracted from our own goal and purpose, then we will never reach where we want to be in our lives. When we focus on what others are doing then we don’t attain, we just continue to complain!

Sometimes it’s easier to look at others and point the finger or offer ‘well meaning’ advice, simply because our own life isn’t going that well.

Mind-When we complain

We act as experts on others’ lives offering advice on all manner of things that really are none of our business. And what we often fail to see… is that what we are attempting to fix in other people’s dramas… is the exact same thing that we need to fix in our own!

How often do we look at (and perhaps comment on) others’ defects when we should be looking at our own shortcomings?  We talk about others and what they are doing, when we should be assessing our own life path. We advise others on anything from the colour of their hair to their love lives and everything in between without a moment’s thought about whether they actually value, need, or even want our advice. Unsolicited advice doesn’t usually go down very well, and the one at the receiving end can often feel irritated, annoyed, or even bullied, and yet we persist in the illusion that we know best.

And isn’t it an interesting phenomenon that we often find other people’s stories more fascinating than our own? What is the difference between following a soap serial on TV or following your family and friends dramas in real life? The answer is probably very little.

Mind-Unsolicited Advice

Maybe it is because we are unable to find satisfaction and contentment in our own lives that we feel compelled to add more spice and drama by stealing excitement from others.

By interfering in other people’s business, we may be doing more damage than good. As we interfere in their script we are becoming directors of their roles.  We must realise that we cannot change anyone, nor force others to do anything. It would be futile to even try. As we try to change them, we may be incapacitating their spiritual and psychological growth as well as denying ourselves the beauty of seeing their real worth and value in our lives. Karmicly this would also not be a wise move!

Mind-Inspire them

If we truly want to help people in their lives, then we should learn to inspire and support them, not perspire to enforce them!

Learning to stay quiet, to stay emotionally detached, and to observe without judgment are a few of the practices we can implement if we want to enjoy life, win friends and most important of all, comfort others in a sincere and beneficial way.

Mind-stay quiet

As we focus on and take care of our own internal business, as we get our own house in order, then we will feel less inclined to look around to see what others are doing.

When we realise that we too are not perfect and capable of making mistakes, then we will begin to be more accepting, forgiving, compassionate and understanding.

It’s time… to mind our own business first. When we gain wisdom from life experience and self-reflection, when we have put our own house in order, then we will not feel the need to give advice to others. They will be so inspired that they will approach us!

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Live with ‘THE END’ in Mind

Live with ‘THE END’ in Mind

We are born out of silence and it is into silence we shall return
We came alone and we shall go alone
We came empty-handed and shall leave empty handed

In between we get to experience…
Laughter and tears
Gladness and sadness
Victory and defeat
It is our choice!

Budha In the end

If only we could remember that all we run after in this material life will be left behind when we leave this body, then perhaps we might spend less time chasing after it!  If this little nugget of truth remained in our awareness it would relieve us of a lot of headache and heartache!

We will all die one day and at that point no-one will worry about how much we have in our bank account!  Well, the children might – but it’s not an immediate question that comes to the mind of most.  We more often query whether the deceased were healthy and happy, or disappointed with life.  When we talk about someone having a ‘good life’ we are most often referring to the account of the soul!

But why should we leave it until so late to question the quality of life?  Instead it would be wise to face a few questions now, so we may take stock, and set the compass of our life to arrive in time at our desired destination in the manner we would wish to!

How would you want to die at the end – most people would prefer a quick and ‘happy’ departure rather than a long drawn out death.  By choice of our thoughts and deeds, our desires and our beliefs, we can even determine this in advance.  The sages in India claim to be able to leave the body (die) at will and their choosing.  We really do have the power to influence how we ’leave’ at the end.Budha guru

What would you like people to say about you at your funeral or on your gravestone?  This is an interesting exercise to do with yourself.  Sit down and write down your own epitaph and then check if it’s just wishful thinking on your part, or whether it could be a reality.  Will people be glad or sad that you are no longer here?

We know that when we leave we take nothing physical with us, but what we will take is what we have accumulated in our spiritual bank account.  Good deeds leave positive and empowering imprints on the soul.  Good deeds strengthen our will to do even more good no matter when and to where we may go.

Budha small things

Things noticed by God and by people are not necessarily the big things, but sometimes the smallest acts of humanity and thoughtfulness.  A person I met in China recently realised that one girl whom she remembered from 17 years before in London happened to be my sister.  What had remained uppermost in her mind about the encounter after all that time was the fact that my sister had made her a sandwich for her journey home.  I am sure many great things happened for her in London, but what did she remember?  The small act of kindness!  A sandwich!

Every minute is flying by, do not waste it.  Time cannot be recycled like water can.  Every breath that passes will not come back.  If we have done all that we wanted to, then we can say with our hands on our hearts that we did our best!  If we deviated from truth or wasted our life and resources then we will have to settle the ‘bill’ later and we will have only ourselves to blame for that.

Budha NOW

Live in the moment, live now, do not postpone life for later.  Do what you want to do, today!  And what you want to do today, do it now!  There is no time like the present.  Postponing change will only instill the habit of procrastination; it will not bring about the desired change.  Act on your good thoughts immediately, do not hesitate, and then see how life rewards you.

We have to live life to the full and give all that we can now so that the soul leaves with blessings and not bad feelings.  Blessings, those heartfelt thanks, are the wings with which the soul flies onto its next destination, the curses are the load that won’t allow the soul to ‘move on’.

It’s Time… to enjoy a good and full life by living every moment, and claiming as many blessings from others while we are still alive.  Then not only will our life be good – but our death will also!


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Back to Nature

Back to Nature

We work so hard to be able to afford luxury goods, only to find out after our ‘enlightenment’ that nature’s gifts have longer lasting and better health benefits than our expensive accessories!

smiley glassesTake sunglasses for example. People pay sky-high prices for designer glasses to look beautiful and bolder! Yet, wearing sunglasses and staying out of the sun all of the time may actually be a reason for some of our health problems. Although some caution is required, studies prove that it’s vitally important to take in natural sunlight for the health of the eyes and for Vitamin D through the skin. Ancient Chinese and Vedic practitioners have known about the sun and its power to heal, rejuvenate and prolong life for centuries. Yet we sophisticated modern day humans think we know better!

Smiley Indian


We invest in expensive training shoes every year. The price shoots higher and higher for the best, most powerful, most bouncy and lightest trainers. Yet walking bare-footed on the earth has recently been hailed as the greatest health-enhancing discovery of the decade. In fact our predecessors never walked in Jimmy Choo or Lacoste shoes! Walking on grass (especially in early mornings when the dew is still present) gets you in touch with the beneficial magnetic fields of the earth. Our feet have pressure points corresponding to the organs in the body. As we press on these by walking barefoot, we gently stimulate those organs activating good health. So our ancestors were reaping this health benefit long before it was ‘remembered’ in modern times.

smiley and trainersTalking of trainers, we also spend extravagantly on designer labels when it comes to sportswear! Natural white cotton was always the preferred clothing; yet modern technology claims spandex and Lycra serve us better. Nylon and polyester just fill the landmines when we are finished with them, and do not allow our bodies to breathe. Good quality cotton clothing, simple and white, is still the best investment.

In Kuwait, despite it being 50 degrees centigrade outside, it’s often very cold – indoors! Air conditioning keeps us cool from the scorching heat and our bodies can never adjust to the natural heat of the outdoors. So we are constantly switching from 50 degrees outside to 21 degrees inside. Although AC may be comfortable, it can’t be good for our health, creating an unnatural environment, harboring germs and aggravating skin disorders. In days gone by, buildings were cleverly constructed so that there was a natural air flow.Smiley sweating

‘Natural’ food is automatically organic… and yet these days we are obliged to pay over the odds for something that comes with a label certifying that it is free from GM, pesticides, fungicides and hormones… all of which we did not ask for in the first place!

Smiley GMOIt seems that, in the name of technical advancement, the world has reached the extreme in artificiality and in-authenticity. It’s not just what we wear and consume, it’s also the attitudes we adopt and the way we see and portray ourselves in the world. We have moved away from respecting and appreciating Mother Nature, and also from appreciating our own true nature.

What is natural is true and real… and also free. It is the time now to become sensible once again, time to return to what is natural. This means living in harmony with nature, and also living our true nature, free, and in peace with ourselves and others.

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Thankfully there are more and more people in the world each year who decide to ignore the consumer hype, grow their own food, seek out pure spring water, build their own eco-friendly and healthy ‘mud huts’ and run barefoot in the park. There are also many people seeking self real-isation through practices such as meditation.

It’s Time… to return to our natural nature of peace, truth and love. When we connect with the real-ity of who we are, then we see the artificial for what it is… then we no longer need to buy into the illusion that we need anything more than we already have.

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The Power of Positive Affirmations

The Power of Positive Affirmations

We may believe that our own thoughts are a private affair… but are they? As hard as this truth might be to swallow, our thoughts have manifested the life we are living currently. And if we don’t like our life, then it’s time to do something about it. We need to change the way we think, not simply what we do!

Wonderful life

Every thought creates a feeling, which in turn influences our perspective and our action. In time the same thought becomes our underlying attitude, it creates our habits and beliefs, and ultimately shapes our character and, yes… becomes our destiny!

Easy and Flowing
If we feel we are living in sorrow and misery, it’s because somewhere we have become too loose with our thinking and have given permission for the misery to move in, making it our friend and ally! Conversely, if we are successful in life, that’s often because we feel worthy and deserving, we keep telling ourselves that we deserve success, we want more and can visualize a life full of plenty.

There is ample supply2
This is definitely a case of ‘be careful what you ask for’, for you will surely get it! Whether consciously or unconsciously we are re-affirming a thought, an idea, a belief to ourselves. And what we give our thoughts to, we are also giving energy and power to that thing. So often we seem to be good at drawing bad luck to ourselves, and so why not use the same principle to attract the good. What we think about, we create.

Every cell vibrates
Conscious affirmations are powerful statements that we repeat to ourselves about the many things we want to manifest or see happen in our lives. Firstly, we need to believe in the idea of being able to manifest what we want. Think about it and empower it with a positive statement, over and over again. You can repeat your affirmations, like you take your daily medicine. Of course the more you believe in it, the more it will work for you and you will be able to have returns more quickly.

Healthy choices
These are a few basic rules for creating affirmations:

1) Be clear on what you want
2) It must be a positive statement
3) It must be believable to you
4) It needs to be personal
5) Make it as specific as possible
6) Visualize your goal as though it has already happened

Here are some sample affirmations. You may use these or create your own personal ones. Practice saying them 3 x 3 times a day at least. And make sure the negative self does not sabotage the positive. Eventually your ‘affirmation’ will become a natural part of your life and your thinking. Not simply a nice thought, but a real deep-seated belief. When our positive thoughts really become part of us, then success is guaranteed!

Affirmations for:

There is an ample supply of everything.
I pay my bills with love as I know abundance flows freely through me.
Everything I need comes to me.
My life is full.

Good health
I am fit and healthy.
I give light and might to every cell in my body.
Every cell, tissue and organ in my body vibrates with energy and health.
My body heals quickly and easily.

I know that I deserve love and I accept it now.
I give out love and it is returns to me multiplied.
I rejoice in the love I encounter everyday.
I am loved and I love all.

Weight Loss
I am the perfect weight for me.
I make positive healthy choices for myself.
I look in the mirror and can say with honesty, I love myself.
I love my daily discipline.

Self Esteem
I am special
I believe in myself.
I express my needs and feelings.
I am my own unique self – special, creative and wonderful.

Peace and Harmony
My relationships are loving and harmonious.
I am at peace with all.
I trust in the process of life.
I dance the dance of harmonizing my personality.

All is well.
Everything is easy and flowing.
I am grateful for everything life delivers to me.
I am liberated and free.

All is well
It’s Time…
to create happiness and success in your life with a few affirmations: I am healthy. I am abundant. I am special. Everything is easy and flowing. I am grateful for all that life delivers to me. Believe in it and it will surely happen.

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The Reason is the Answer

The Reason is the Answer

We do not need to look very far to find that the reasons for our problems often contain the answers we seek. A ‘problem’ can simply be an indicator that what we are wanting is already in front of us, and it simply needs to be cleaned up or transformed in order for us to be happy or successful.

An inoculation, designed to prevent us from getting a certain disease, is simply a minute dose of the disease itself. It is just enough to allow the body to begin to build its own internal defense system. In Africa, my mother would place burnt cotton wool onto burns, and they healed quickly.

Nature knows this secret well. If you find yourself injured by a stinging plant, you can find the solution – a curing plant – growing right beside it. In other words the answer is often right there, facing us.

Applying this principle to more subtle matters, we can begin to realize that all of our answers are within us. For example in relationships, too much attachment to a person will ultimately cause pain. The cure is to apply more love, but in a purer form. Attachment is love in a polluted form. It is care and compassion, but is also filled with expectation and fear of loss. Love in its highest form cannot cause pain. To understand the quality of this pure love, and to share it freely without any conditions, is the solution that sets us free. There is always a fine line between the reason and the solution.

We can also see that if we suffer from low self-esteem or pride and arrogance, then ego – another word for the lower self – is the root problem. In this case, an elevated form of self-respect is the answer, but it needs to be based on an understanding and appreciation of the higher self.

If greed is the cause of our restlessness, then to be able to convert those material desires into higher, more noble aspirations is the cure and the way towards contentment and peace of mind.

If too much time on our hands is the cause of our boredom and depression, then to be able to put that available time to use in a worthwhile way is the answer to freedom and happiness.

If we aspire to claim a high position or become a leader of many, then we need to learn to manage and lead ourselves first, not simply feel the satisfaction of exercising control over others.

Whatever we are seeking in life, if we take the time to look deeper into the soul, we will find that we have the answer to all of our problems. They are probably looking us in the face, yet because we are so caught up in the problem we are unable to see the solution clearly. Often all we need to do is to take the time and effort to move to a higher level of consciousness and we may realise that the answer was in front of us all the time.

However, detachment is needed. We need to step away in order to see the issue for what it is. Otherwise we can easily feel justified in our negative responses, feelings and sorrows, and give them permission to continue.

In Raja Yoga, we understand that we have all vices and all virtues within us. They are often seen as opposites, (Anger/Peace, Attachment/Love, for example) but can just as easily be envisioned as a spectrum on which we are moving back and forth. So we can see that the opposites are in fact intimately connected. When our consciousness declines in one virtue, it degrades into vice in that area.

So the answer may not be to battle with our problems, but rather to see ourselves and the situation in a loving light so that we can get a glimpse of the truth by simply seeing it from a different, more elevated perspective.

It’s time… to look for the answer in the problem. Take a closer look at your issue and see if you can identify the solution within that. The answer is looking at you in the face!

Share these thoughts! ‘It’s Time…’ is spreading far and wide! Feel free to forward this wisdom, but to avoid any karmic rebound, please acknowledge its source – ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London


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